How Motherhood Changes Your Brain

Did you ever hear that joke about ‘mommy brain’? If I could remember it, then I would tell you. The phenomenon of ‘mom brain’ has been endlessly used as a punchline. The gist of the joke is usually that moms become forgetful or moody. And, it turns out that the mental changes you feel during pregnancy and motherhood aren’t all in your head. Researchers have found that a mother’s brain undergoes significant changes as a woman becomes a mom. But contrary to all of the wisecracks, mom brain isn't a bad thing! All of those neural developments actually serve some pretty amazing purposes.

Mom brains get smaller…and bigger.

The brains of pregnant women undergo a radical transformation thanks to hormone surges. In fact, moms’ brains change more during pregnancy and postpartum than they do at any other point in life—including puberty! Part of the reason for this is a process of synaptic pruning where the brain essentially cuts off function to areas that it no longer needs in order to build up the areas that are now crucial. For mothers, it appears that the outer layers of gray matter that help control muscle movement, memories, emotions, and decision making are reduced. Some researchers think this is why moms become moody and forgetful. In one study, researchers were able to clearly see that the brains of mothers were actively pruning gray matter to make way for newer synaptic connections that would help her protect and take care of her baby. 

Mom brains become more protective.

You know how moms joke about their “inner mama bear”? That ferocious, mind-dwelling creature that gnashes its teeth when our kids are threatened actually serves a purpose! During pregnancy, a mother’s brain partially rewires itself to better detect danger with a particular sensitivity toward angry or fearful facial expressions. Researchers have found this to occur in stages that appear to correspond with pregnancy trimesters. The strongest vigilance toward threats seems to happen during the second and third trimesters, and some researchers believe this is because mom brains are building up new synapses to help her adapt to motherhood. In other words, Mama Bear is wired to be fiercely protective of her cubs! 

Mom brains are built for empathy.

Mom brains are incredibly loving by design. Studies have found that all that synaptic pruning and neural building that fundamentally alters the physical structure of a mother’s brain serves another critical purpose: empathy building. Researchers have unearthed strong evidence that moms respond to infant cues like crying, snuggling, sleeping, etc., with an increase in brain activity that governs empathy, self-monitoring, and reflection. In other words, when a mother bonds with her baby by tending to their needs, the part of her brain that manages empathy actually grows. Awww!

Mom brain doesn’t go away.

It turns out that mom brain doesn’t vanish once your little one is no longer a baby—but that’s actually not a bad thing. In some studies, like this one, researchers found that even after two years postpartum, moms did not gain back the gray matter they lost during pregnancy. And while that might seem a bit alarming, rest assured that Mother Nature has another trick up her sleeve. It is believed that one reason mom brain sticks around is because it helps mothers turn into amazing grandmas later in life. The same protective, empathetic, hyper-focused attention around tending to children seen in brain scans of new mothers appears to help grandmothers lend a hand in raising the next generation.

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